the joy of missing out

It’s time to start embracing JOMO – The Joy of Missing Out.

If you are a certified Millennial like me you probably already know about FOMO – The Fear of Missing Out. The Oxford Dictionary (yes, the actual dictionary) describes ‘FOMO’ as, “anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.”

Seeing everyone having a great time on our social media timelines gives us serious FOMO. We post our best moments online – it’s like having our own personal highlight reel and we are the director. This creates a false sense of perception that everyone is always having an amazing time. Scrolling through your Facebook timeline is like peering through the window of your best mate’s party, that you didn’t get an invite to.

We consume this fake reality every day. Its no secret that we are glued to our phones more than ever. It’s claimed that we check our phones up to 150 times a day. A recent study showed that more than half of us use our phone while walking and that nearly a quarter of 16-24 year olds admit to using their phone while crossing the road.

Its time to turn things around and embrace JOMO.

I have been experimenting with different ways to break my own unhealthy social media habits. Recently I logged off all social media for a week. I felt like it would be a real challenge to not check any of my timelines for an entire week but I soon realised how refreshing it was to detach from the needy world of social media.

I was reminded that the world keeps spinning even if no one knows what I had cooked for dinner that night. It created time and space for me to read a book and learn something new (books are good like that by the way). But above all, I became aware that I didn’t really care what everyone was doing in their own worlds. Keeping up with everyone’s day was so superficial that I didn’t miss it at all.

By not walking down to the metaphorical party-house to peer in through the window at everyone trying to impress each other, I managed to discover some inner calm. I had discovered the joy of missing out.

My advice to you is to try taking a break from social media. Start small. Try deleting all the social media apps from your phone and not logging in for a while. Maybe 24 hours? Maybe a week like I did? Whatever feels right for you.

Let me know how it goes.